Parenting Is A 24/7 Job. For most people, parenting is an adventure, a challenge, and, at times, downright overwhelming. It can feel like an exhausting lifelong job with no breaks or holidays — where your child comes first every single day. But for parents of children with special needs, it is often more than that.
You can’t expect your kids to be perfect
Generations of parents have raised successful, happy children — children who also happen to have special needs. These are kids who may not drive or get married, but they still make their way into the world. Raising a child with special needs is simply part of the overall parenting process — nothing more, nothing less. It’s important to understand that you can’t expect your child to be perfect. He may not be able to walk or talk, but that doesn’t mean he can’t learn the most important thing about life — that no matter what you are faced with, there are always choices you can make.
You have to find ways to help them self-help
Most parents have helped their children grow and learn new skills through activities they found enjoyable or stimulating. Parents of children with special needs may have to work harder in finding things for their kids to do which will assist them in self-help.
If you’re not willing to do the work, don’t have children
It’s as simple as that — there is no way you can raise a child without putting in the effort. Raising a child with special needs is more involved than bringing up someone who doesn’t have any problems. It’s like having another full-time job . . . which is also your life.
It’s okay if your child makes mistakes – it means they are trying their best
After a while, your child may make some mistakes. It’s hard to be perfect. Nothing is perfect. But you have to realize that mistakes are a good thing. If they weren’t, there would be no way of telling if they were trying their best or not.
Be patient with them and give them time to learn new things
If you are on the ball, keep an eye out for any new skills your child may develop. Let them know that it’s okay to try new things. It’s never too late to learn something new.
You’re never done – be prepared to always have a task in front of you
It’s not that there is work that needs to be done all the time, but rather that you need to be prepared for the fact that every moment of the day may bring a new challenge. It’s important always to think ahead and stay busy, so you don’t become overwhelmed.
It’s not just about the kids – take care of yourself too, and try to get some sleep!
Make sure you don’t forget to take care of yourself. It’s easy to get caught up in all the work you have to do, but if your health is affected, or you can’t sleep at night, or you feel overwhelmed and worn out — it won’t help your child in the long run. Try watching a movie with them, reading a bedtime story, or holding them close and talking with them about their day.
Make time for yourself- go on walks, do yoga, listen to music
It’s essential to get some time for yourself. This doesn’t just mean time to sit down and relax, but also time to take care of yourself physically — to get enough rest, eat good foods, get good exercise — time just for YOU!
Get help when you need it
Don’t feel bad asking for assistance from friends or family or hiring a babysitter or daycare provider. Ask friends and family for help when you need it. Don’t feel like it’s a burden if your parents want to help with some of your child’s chores.
Be flexible with your rules and expectations so that everyone can participate in what they want to
Everyone should have the opportunity to do what they want to do, even if they have special needs. They should be able to enrich their lives with meaningful experiences, just like other kids. This means being flexible regarding rules and schedules — making sure everyone can participate in activities that will help them learn, grow, and feel good about themselves.
Find a balance between being strict and lenient with consequences so that both children are happy with their lives
It may be necessary to set some rules and consequences, but make sure that these are fair and achievable. Children need to see that you want them to do what is right, not just because you want them to.
It’s important to make sure your children are getting the right amount of sleep
Being tired and cranky will cause parents and their kids to fight more than usual. Try not to go past their bedtime and try to spend some quality time with your kids before bed if you can.
Make time for them
You and your child must spend quality time together when no one is doing anything in particular, but just spending time together doing whatever you like to do or whatever they want to do.
Monitor their screen time
Too much TV can lead to obesity and other health problems. Make sure kids don’t watch hours and hours of TV a day. Make sure they know that if they do, there will be consequences.
Teach them about money by giving them chores around the house
Making them aware that they can earn money, chores, and chores will help them develop a good work ethic and teach them how to be responsible.
Be a good role model for your kids by being kind, generous, and forgiving
You’re a role model for your kids. Let them see that you are a good person and that being a good person is a priority in your life. You should never lose sight of the fact that you can make your lives better if you always treat other people – especially the ones you care the most about – with respect and kindness.